it sounds so worldly which is how we wanted to think of ourselves, but lord, we were just children, sent by the government to fly airplanes and to save western europe from world war iii. we thought we had all the important things still left to do and were just playing at importance for the time being. it never occurred to us, living in our community of friends, having first babies, seeing husbands die, helping young widows pack to go home, that we had already started the important things. what could we have been thinking, or perhaps it's how could we have known that times get no better, that important things come without background music, that life is largely a matter of paying attention. >> "life comes without background music." >> which we raised on movies tend to think that when good things happen and things are good, there's great background music. >> choosing gratitude. why gratitude and why now? >> well, i guess it started with my increasing frustration about how polarized we are in the country. how much discontent there is. people ask me now, "how are you doing?" and i say, "consi